I’ve decided that I’m going to end the singles epidemic of our generation. Single handedly. In one fell swoop. It’s quite simple. Why don’t we just make an app that everybody single can see each other (because online pictures are a flawless gauge of who’s best suited for you), not have to talk to anyone (because dialogue always gets in the way of true love and connection), and just swipe left or right if you feel this is or isn’t the one (because what more is dating than the equivalent of Pokemon Go with even more realistic online-real life interactions). What? They’ve already done that? Oh, OK. Well… don’t fear! I have Plan B to reversing the singles epidemic in one fell swoop. Speed dating? Nope. Bar night? Nope. Matchmaking? Nope. “Well, what is it?!” you so kindly ask. It’s a workshop. A singles workshop. I call it, “Finding and Keeping the Love You Want” (nothing to do with the book from the ‘80s, but I love the title…) Gimme 30 seconds to explain. K?
No matter whether it’s the guys, the girls, the extroverts, the introverts, the bar scene, the dating apps, the singles events, or the lonely nights in the apartment by themselves… everyone in the 21st century’s dating scene is suffering. I feel their pain. (Don’t worry, honey, I’m happily married to you! It’s just empathy.) I want to help them. I want to help you. And here’s my plan how I’m going to.
I work as a rabbi with young professionals. “Thanks a lot, rabbi. OK, next catchy blog to look at please?” WAIT! Keep reading… please? Besides working as a rabbi with young professionals, I wear another hat as a Marriage and Family Therapist. (“Ooooh, Mr. Therapist thinks he’s so cool…” Dude, chill out.) I trained under some of the best Couples Therapists of our times, including Dr. Sue Johnson and Dr. Rebecca Jorgensen. I now work exclusively with couples. Most couples come to me on the verge of divorce, carrying a lot of animosity between them. They are feeling lonely, unheard, and unloved in their relationship. Through research based cutting edge techniques (see www.iceeft.com for details), we slowly build the trust and bond between them.
Over time, I have realized that the pain couples are going through and the disconnect they are feeling with their spouse is not so different from the pain a single goes through in his/her search for their significant other. And many of the tools and techniques that have been fine tuned for couples can be slightly tweaked to service the singles community in their search for meaningful connection in finding and keeping the love they want. When I asked my teachers and mentors if anyone has ever applied the concepts they taught me to the singles world, they told me unfortunately not but with strong words of encouragement to make it happen.
Perhaps you see where I’m going with this. So… I have put together the first ever singles workshop. (First? Well, first of its kind.) I call it, “Finding and Keeping the Love You Want!” (i.e., Plan B). It is a 2 hour workshop scheduled to debut on Sunday, August 21st, at 3 pm. For everyone who is feeling frustrated with the singles system, unable to interpret the confusing cloud of relationships, and is seeking a way out to fresh air of understanding and connection, I humbly offer this workshop to you. If you’d like to join us, you can register here. Blessings of love and connection to all.